Weaving All of the 7NNs Together to Discover Your Personal Definition of Excellence.
When all 7NNs are working within you in unison, you will begin to fire on all cylinders.
Everyone creates in a unique and remarkable way. You will also discover that when you create something positive, you have two choices: You can take all the beauty that has been created and swallow it down to feed your ego, or you can share it. This exercise is a game changer.
“Like most things in life, we won’t take action in anything if we don’t believe in it. So the million-dollar question becomes - how do we strengthen our belief system – the rules that our brains play by to get us to move and do?” says Gary O’Neil.
Belief is one of our most important 7NNs. “If repetition is the mother of mastery, then belief must be the mother of achievement,” he adds.
Here is Gary’s basic recipe for developing excellence with a little Fishbowl secret sauces added in to add just a little extra zest.
We created a short assessment to help you see where you are currently standing on the ladder of excellence, based on advice from Gary published in a Forbes column in July 2014.
1. Shape Your Reality, Shape Your Life
Perceptions shape what we consider to be real or unreal. In many cases we focus on limiting beliefs that hold us back from achieving who we want to be and where we want to go. Comfort zones are like comfort foods, where we have control and understand the outcomes.
But in order for us to grow and achieve new things, we have to live outside of what we know and seek a greater reality that we may not yet understand. In order to shape our lives, we must confront and fix potentially harmful parts of our belief system. That’s where it all starts. So what’s the secret to it all, you may ask?
This quote from Socrates is a great way to look at it: “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” In many respects we will always be tied to things that have been imprinted on our brains since childhood. It will be next to impossible to get rid of those beliefs entirely. The best way to start changing your perspective is to build new ones in areas that are limiting your ability to progress.
Question: When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone and gave your all to a work or life project?
2. Expand Your Possibilities and Relentlessly Visualize Your Achievement
In order to break down specific limiting beliefs, you need to discover why you deserve what you’re trying to achieve. Possibilities are often thought of because we see other people accomplishing them.
Reaching any worthwhile goal entails some discomfort. During your journey, stress, pain, and setbacks are bound to occur, but strong visualization builds an unbreakable level of certainty – an unyielding belief that you will be successful regardless of the circumstances.
Question: When was the last time you exceeded your own expectations at work and demonstrated faith when all others had given up hope?
3. Break Through the Illusions of Barriers and Move Beyond Fear
We often create fences (stress) when none really exist except in our minds.
If life was easy, we would all be successful at everything we do. Mental barriers are tough to break down, but that’s where you can develop the skills to thrive.
Once you believe you can do it, what is left is to tear down the barriers you have created. We need to do some real soul-searching to remove them. It’s that place that allows us to be real with ourselves – where we de-clutter and regain our focus. We don’t allow negativity to build a wall between us and what we’re trying to achieve.
We have discovered that returning to respect is the key that opens the door. Turn it often so that you are not locked inside your own fear.
Fear can run amok in so many aspects of our lives. It’s natural to be fearful – we all experience at times. So if we can’t get rid of it entirely, what do we do? Manage it the best we can, or expose ourselves to it gradually.
Think about jumping into a cold pool. Some may jump right in fearlessly. Others may start with their toe, then their foot, until they’re completely submerged. Even if they can only beat the fear in small doses, they beat their fear – and that is all that counts.
Question: When was the last time you unlocked the door of fear and discovered something extraordinary on the other side?
4. Your Confident Pathway
Write about your need to complain on a card each morning, tear it up, and be done with it. You will instantly feel lighter. Anytime you get an urge to complain during the day, remember that you’ve already torn up your complaints for the day.
We can all choose to simply skip the petty annoyances in life.
Question: When was the last time you faced a fear or a challenge without complaining?
5. What Gets Measured Gets Mastered
Specific goals should have specific time limits. The longer you let something run, the less likely it will ever happen. Motivation and progress decrease and the belief you will actually make it happen will turn to dust. Like the old saying goes, “A goal without a measurable outcome is just a pipedream.”
Don’t be afraid to share your goals with friends and family so they can provide support and advice, and you can use that as fuel and a reminder of what you are trying to achieve.
A lot of the great successes we see come out of the necessity to make dramatic changes in our lives. If your goals are too easily attainable or small, your motivation may wane because you’re already close to achieving it.
Most importantly, begin today. Dale Carnegie says, “One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”
Question: When was the last time you set an extraordinary goal and achieved it?
The theme of this training program was inspired by a quote from Nelson Mandela. Keep it in mind as you make your way through the exercises.
“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”
Learn to appreciate and respect the life that is uniquely yours and continue to develop and grow each day by remaining open to new possibilities.
We have included a pre- and post-assessment for each respective pathway: