Do You Have A Good Boss Or Bad Boss? And The More Important Question You Should Be Asking

Published on Forbes 7/17/2014

Our team took a stroll down Twitter lane recently. We read the top 10 lists on how to be a good boss and what makes you a horrible boss; that people quit their bosses (not their jobs); and to be a good boss you must give your employees the freedom to express themselves and, of course, the importance of being likable.

We think a more important question is: What kind of support person are you to your leaders and team? When was the last time that you worked as a friend?

We thought you might enjoy our team’s Top Tweet List:

  • Bosses are just people. We make good decisions and no-good decisions.
  • Most of the leaders within the companies we know work really hard to take great care of their people. Cut them some slack when you can. P.S. You can.
  • We don’t leave our weaknesses behind when we quit our job.
  • Some people are going to like you and others won’t. Don’t take it personally, and don’t change just to try to please others.
  • You are going to make mistakes. Own them, learn from them, and do better moving forward.
  • Making difficult decisions that keep a company around isn’t going to win you a popularity contest.
  • Don’t wait around for the universe to send you a friend when you’re feeling down. Be a friend to others, especially when they’re feeling down and you’ll never want for support in your hard times.

One of the finest leaders who I know and work to emulate simply showed up for the same flight I was on. We struck up a conversion and discovered that we were both consulting for the same organization and became friends. When I needed an attorney and had no money, he worked pro-bono. When I was flat on my back suffering from tragedy and loss, he recommended me for a job, which landed me a nice opportunity with great people. As a result, I eventually became CEO of one the country’s most acclaimed software companies for tracking inventory and assets, which integrates with QuickBooks.

I was a long shot and, to most, a lost hope, yet a friend believed and supported me. He recognized potential and he envisioned a future for me long before I did. When my son, Cameron, passed away and we created a foundation in his name, my friend was one of the first to wear a Camstrong bracelet in support. He also made the arduous climb to the top of Mount Kilimanjaro, reaching an elevation of 19,341 feet. It was one of the most difficult physical challenges of his life—and he has run 29 marathons, most recently the Boston Marathon, and left a Camstrong bracelet where others had left mementos in memory of those lives lost at last year’s marathon. He left two Camstrong bracelets at certain points to encourage people to keep going and reward them for finishing the journey. By doing that, he also made sure that Cam would always be on top of the world.

He is my friend and his name is Eric Pearson.

Eric Pearson is a true friend who serves others selflessly.

Here are Eric’s thoughts after the climb...

“We needed the inspiration and the meaning that Cam’s spirit embodied and exemplified – it was absolutely one of the most difficult and physically demanding challenges I’ve completed, and that’s coming from a guy who has completed 29 marathons! But of course the experience was rewarding on every level – mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The toughest part of the climb is a steep pitch that seems to last forever and ends at the ridge called Gilman’s Point, which is over 18,000 feet above sea level.

Eric Pearson made the grueling climb to Kilimanjaro Peak.

“I thought of you and Cam as we struggled up that difficult stretch. I left one of the bracelets at the top, Uhuru Peak, and another bracelet you can see wrapped around the left signpost at Gilman’s Point as a token of inspiration to those who have reached 18,000 feet and still have another 1,340 feet of challenge in front of them!”

Our advice to you – focus less on good and bad bosses and more on being a supportive friend and don’t be surprised if life turns out well for you and everyone around you in the long run. Here’s hoping you have a friend and/or can be a friend like Eric for your toughest climbs in life.

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